Straight Talk, No Chaser

I've had countless women ask me, "Steve, when are you going to write a book telling men what they should e doing?" Well, there is no book I can write, no lecture I can give, no panel I can sit on, no television roundtable I can host that will ever make a man pick it up and dig deep into studies on relationships. He's not going to read it. I can bet you my bottom dollar that even if I were to give this book away, I could count on one hand the number of men likely to pick up a book about how to better get along with women. First off, a man would never allow another man to tell him about what he should be doing in his own house with his own woman. Second, I can guarantee you he definitely doesn't want to hear Steve Harvey telling him what to do, not after I gave away the playbook in Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man, and especially after I divulge all of men's relationship secrets here.

Mostly, though, I hope that the women who do choose to read this book find the courage to go against their widely held views on relationships and simply think about and put into practical use the advice I'm giving you in these pages. I understand it's hard to swim in uncharted waters—that it's scary, even. But I encourage you to open your mind and lose the fear. After all, the biggest cause of failure is the fear of failure. If you truly want to change your relationship fortune, why not give change a try? If what you've done up to now hasn't worked, why not try to implement what I've laid out for you in both this book and Act Like a Lady, Think Like a Man? Step out—be a risk taker; I'm not telling you to go rock-climbing without a safety harness; I'm not saying to go sky diving without a parachute; and I'm not telling you to chain yourself up before you submerge yourself in a tank full of water and trying to escape. I'm asking you, simply, to consider thinking about relationships in a different way, based on all of the truths you'll find out about men in the pages of my books.

My sincere hope is that you’ll take this information and use it to empower yourself—to recognize that you hold the key to a successful relationship. I understand that many women don’t quite care to embrace the idea that the burden of getting the union they want rests squarely on their shoulders, but it is what it is. You’ve been blessed with this tremendous skill set that we men do not possess, and it is those skills that you absolutely, unequivocally have to employ to get what you want.

Change your approach, take back your power, and hold your chin up while you’re working on getting the love you deserve. Do this, and you’ll have very little to lose, but a whole lot more to gain.

STRAIGHT TALK, NO CHASER. Copyright © 2010 by Steve Harvey. Used by permission of HarperCollins Publishers.